Affirmation: “I am lovable.”
Journal Prompt:
Who or what makes me feel most loved?
Self-Care Ritual:
lov·able – \ˈlə-və-bəl\
variants: or less commonly loveable
: having qualities that attract affection – the hero’s lovable sidekick— Terrence Rafferty
In an ideal world, we’re delivered into the arms of loving parents at our birth. They assume full responsibility for our survival and well-being, and tend to our every need. All their attention and affection are ours, assuring us that we have value, and deserve love. We are bonded to them, in a loving relationship, and thereby learn we’re indeed lovable.
But in the real world, things often interfere with that loving bond. As humans, we have the greatest of intentions, but life sometimes distracts us. And the distractions of those who were supposed to care for us, can cause painful family dynamics, and inconsistent attachments. If this happened in our childhood, we’re likely to doubt we’re lovable, in favor of insecurity, and carry that doubt into our adulthood.
We end up searching for love, as if we’re on a mission. And we often end up in very unhealthy relationships, filled with jealousy, strife, and possessiveness. We suffer abuse, and victimization as well, because we feel it’s better to be in a bad relationship, than to be alone. We believe that even our bad relationship, is proof that we’re worthy of, or possess the qualities that attract, love. We also believe that when someone withholds their love from us, we’re not worthy of, or even able to receive love.
We’ve forgotten that we’re all born lovable.
If a bad childhood led you to feel unloved and unworthy, it’s a lie.
You ARE lovable.
If you feel ashamed due to past failures and mistakes, it’s a lie.
You ARE lovable.
If you’ve been rejected or abandoned by someone, it’s a lie.
You ARE lovable.
Being lovable is inherent.
It can’t be earned, and it doesn’t depend on the approval of another person.
You’re forever, and for always, lovable.
This is why self-love is so important!
In the practice of self love, we learn what feels good to us, and what doesn’t, so we can determine our path forward. It doesn’t simply rise up though, it takes effort, just like any other relationship we have. Which is where the journal prompt comes in…
Who or what makes you feel most loved?
How your life feels, is more important than what it looks like. Don’t think about what love looks like to you, think about what it feels like. Feel all the emotions of your life… even the bad or sad. (If you can’t allow yourself to feel sadness, you will not be able to feel happiness.) Embrace them all fully, seeing your own value and worth in each emotional experience. Keep what makes you feel loved and full of light.
And from the attention you give to loving yourself, you’ll naturally begin to attract people who recognize your value and worth.
And you deserve that, because YOU ARE LOVABLE!